love (n.) - The art of lieing to another person so they won't leave you

What exactially is expected of you when you're in love? Is there some specific rule book that says you must say certen things at certen times, act certen ways when certen things go down, or be a specific person and make the sacrafices that all others make every time?

I must be a non-conformist when it comes to love. I've always thought of it as a different thing than everyone else. I don't tend to sacrafice everything in my life for someone else. I don't cut myself off from other people, I don't care-take to a feeling, or get whipped and fall down the second a woman gives me the "puppy whine". You want to give me the whine? Then I guess you are how you act. I'm not into dating a dog.

I see such pathetic people who are "in love" .They cower to thier mates every whim. Begging for accecptance, wishing for gratification, all because they feel that one single mistake is going to drive the other person away. Oh and it's not limited to love! I've seen this crap in friendships too.

Wake the living hell up people. Friends and loved ones are going to stick around after a fight. You can act like yourself, because (and I know this is going to be a hard concept to grasp to most people in this world) they might have just fallen in love for who you are and all you do when you become that little wuss then you end up being nothing more than a flippin lapdog.

What is the deal people? Everyone nowadays is either a complete jackass, unable to get a decent girlfriend, a complete moron unable to figure out what to DO with a girlfriend, or a complete pussy able to get a good girlfriend but unable to keep them due to the fact they don't have the balls to say what they need to say or do what they need to do.

Let me tell you something. The purpose of love is for you to get hurt! What? Don't believe me? Well, it's just as true as the point of Living is to eventually die. It always happens, it never fails. When you get into a relationship, it becomes so much easier if you don't expect it to last forever, and you know that it's going to end.

It's like knowing you're going to die soon, but you don't know when. You take alot less for granted. You enjoy what time you have. You want to stay around for a long time, and sometimes you can grab onto some borrowed time... heck maybe it'll even last until the end of your life, but one of you has to die sometime. You will leave the other behind, and they will hurt. They will cry, they will miss you. There is absolutely no avoiding the fact that someone will always get hurt when you fall in love. Realize this and it becomes alot easier.

Have the guts to be yourself around a person. I'm not saying be a dick. Make the comprimise to another person to make them comfortable, but don't go out of your way and bend to thier will. If they don't like smoking, you can go into the other room so it doesn't bother them but don't quit for them. If they're not of the same religion, you don't have to talk to God about them but don't hide your religion because they don't believe in it.

You still have the right to be your own person. Any changes and any way you act while you're in a relationship had better be your own choice, otherwise you're shortening the relationships lifespan. Each and every thing you do aginst your own will is a fight you will have later on that will blow up into mega perportions.

And, God forbid, if it does end don't sit and wallow in your own pity. This is the absolute most unattractive and by far the most idiotic thing a person can do. I understand the first couple of times, sometimes it can really hurt, but damn! You have got to stop whining about everything you lost and start remembering everything you had. It's gone, so what? Doesn't change the fact you had fun from point A to point B. You're acting like a kid who spent all day at Disney Land, had a blast, and is now bitching and crying that you're leaving, acting like it was the worst time in the world. You will get another chance to ride the mother fawkin rollercoaster and to grab Micky Mouse on the ass one day! NOW SHUT UP!

Moral of the story? Learn to love correctly. Don't hold your tongue, don't hide your balls, and don't act like losing is the end of the world. There is NO KNIGHT IN SHINING ARMOR. There is NO CORRECT WAY TO ACT. There is only you, and that's the person that they fell in love with. That's the person you should be.